I had a reader ask me yesterday to pose a question to the group. So here goes:
She wants me to ask the family how a woman should take guys that are in serious relationships that say they love their significant other yet look at other females. Is this ok? Is it cheating? Does it mean they don't love you? How should we females handle that situation?
Here is my opinion..
My husband loves me. I do not doubt this for a second. Does he look at other females. YES. Is this ok..Sure is. Is it cheating? NOPE. Does this mean he doesn't love me? NOPE. How should we handle it. Nothing to handle.
He's human and has eyes. As long as he isn't disrespecting me by breaking his neck to check some other chick out while I am standing there it's all good. Heck there have been times I've told him that girl's boob is about to pop out of her shirt WATCH.. Can I be mad at him if he looked NO I just told him to. I'm secure enough in myself to know that if he looks at a random girl it doesn't mean anything. I'm also secure enough to know that if he ends up pursuing any other random chick he is NOT the man for me & it's time to move on.
Besides the question I must ask a woman before they get worked up over a man looking... Have you ever looked at another man. Even if it is just for a split second. Even if it meant nothing???
In my opinion if him looking at another woman bothers you this can mean one of two things. Either you the woman has some insecurities about yourself OR you don't trust him that it will end at just him looking at another female.You feel that for whatever reason he may one day take it further & disrespect. In which case you have no relationship...
Again this is just my opinion but I am curious to see what you all have to say about it...