I wish my mate would........

One of the questions I hear a LOT when I tell people I'm a passion party consultant is "is your hubby OK with that"? I also get asked if my husband is into stuff like "that" because most people think there mates aren't. Most people that think their significant other isn't into sex toys probably never had a conversation them about it. Some people have & their mates were uninterested.


Truth be told my husband was not into toys or anything passion party related when we first got together. But as things progressed between us and we talked openly about it he became more comfortable with it all and now looks forward to new products coming out so we can try them. I've heard men say my girl/wife doesn't need a toy because she has me. What people don't understand is that the toy isn't here to replace you. It's here just to add a lil something on a day you feel like being fancy and doing something different. A toy can also help you discover things you & your mate like that you never knew about and it may help your mate open up about things they want to do, try or like.


No one is perfect & relationships are give & take. Sometimes we wish our significant other would do things the way we want them to. Sometimes we think certain things should be automatic but communication is key. And sometimes we may get the wrong impression about why our mate wants us to do certain things. I posed this question to a few people and here were some of my responses...


1. I wish my mate would fold laundry, pick her shoes up & make the bed...
This is what MY husband would say... I will do laundry but I hate folding it & putting it away. And after working all day, running after the baby, cooking, etc the last thing I wanna do is fold clothes. Second I'm a shoe whore. LOVE THEM. If I was a millionaire I would buy shoes all day every day. I wear a different pair of shoes almost every day. I take off my shoes the minute I walk into my house therefore by Friday there are at LEAST 5 pairs of shoes by the door. It annoys him to no end. Lastly I hate making the bed. You're just gonna mess it up when you get back in it later.. and it feels so nice & comfy when i just jump into my unmade bed. I married someone who can NOT go to bed unless the bed is made & has actually discovered how to make the bed with me in it!


2. I wish my mate were more supportive..
One person I asked wished that their mate would give them the support they give. Something simple like just giving your mate your full attention when they speak or acknowledging their feelings is sometimes all your mate needs to know that you care.


3. I wish my mate wanted sex more...
Before everyone rolls their eyes in disgust the person that mentioned this didn't say it in a perverted I need sex all the time sort of way. It was said more in a need to have that intimacy from my mate way. It was mentioned that because their mate didn't initiate sex or rejected them when sex was brought up they in turn felt rejected, possibly inadequate and a loss of intimacy.


So my question to all is what do u wish your mate would do or try????