Reflections....

Today is the last day of September. It's a Friday... My head is about to explode with everything that I want to accomplish before the year ends. I'm excited about the new possibilities. I'm excited that I have a few parties coming up. I'm proud of the things my daughter has accomplished especially in the past month. I'm proud of the way my husband has been hustling working two full time jobs.
I'm proud of my other lil babies Lady C & Diva who are blossoming and joining my Soso and forming Triple Trouble.
I'm proud of my friends who recently had babies & are wonderful mommies. And I'm proud of my sister wife Aisha who is going to change the world with her publishing company. And yea I guess I can be proud of Hayden & his photography too.. LOL  And Michel who is one day going to put H&R Block out of business.

I don't know if it's because it's sunny, or Friday or what..but I'm extremely happy & positive & thankful for what I have & the people that I have in my life.  So I'd like to say I hope you are too & have a sexy, happy & fun weekend!

XOXOXO

FACTOID THURSDAY

As always please feel free to share your own facts:

Did you know that Vibrators were original used to treat Hysteria in women? Orginal treatment for Hysteria was digital manipulation (fingering) but doctors felt that took to long & came up with a vibrator to make the proceess go faster...

The first vibrators were steam powered...

Orignally condoms were made from chemically treated linen and animal tissue (usually intestine or bladder)

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A lil bit of Inspiration on Hump Day...

I had no idea what to blog about today but then I got an email from one of my sister-wives (I'll blog about that topic soon) and it was really nice. So I figured I would just post that and give you all a bit of inspiration to get you through the rest of the week...Thank you Michel

I woke up early today, excited over all I get to do before the clock strikes midnight. I have responsibilities to fulfill today. I am important.

My job is to choose what kind of day I am going to have.

Today I can complain because the weather is rainy or I can be thankful that the grass is getting watered for free.

Today I can feel sad that I don't have more money or I can be glad that my finances encourage me to plan my purchases wisely and guide me away from waste.

Today I can grumble about my health or I can rejoice that I am alive.

Today I can lament over all that my parents didn't give me when I was growing up or I can feel grateful that they allowed me to be born.

Today I can cry because roses have thorns or I can celebrate that thorns have roses.

Today I can mourn my lack of friends or I can excitedly embark upon a quest to discover new relationships.

Today I can whine because I have to go to work or I can shout for joy because I have a job to do.

Today I can complain because I have to go to school or eagerly open my mind and fill it with rich new tidbits of knowledge.

Today I can murmur dejectedly because I have to do housework or I can feel honored because the Lord has provided shelter for my mind, body and soul.

Today stretches ahead of me, waiting to be shaped. And here I am, the sculptor who gets to do the shaping.

What today will be like is up to me. I get to choose what kind of day I will have!

-- Author Unknown

It's NOT ok....

On October 6, 2011 I along with a few of my girlfriends will join 1,000 other supporters to climb the steps of 1411 Broadway—a 42-story skyscraper in the heart of Manhattan's Fashion District and Times Square. Why are we doing this? To raise funds to support inMotion, a nonprofit that provides free legal services to battered women and their children. This is our attempt to help battered women & children get the help they need and put us a step in the direction to end domestic violence. The timing of this is perfect as it coincides with our book club book. This month we are reading The End of November by Nicole Sharpe. This is a TRAGIC tale of a women growing up seeing her father abuse her mother & ultimately murdering her and how her life was affected after that. This story hit my hard because it wasn't just a story I was reading. I met her. I stood in her living room and talked to her. And at the time I would have NEVER known everything she had been through.
In my blog and in my business as a passion party consultant I discuss how to keep the romance alive. How to keep things spicy. How to help make a relationship work. BUT none of this is important or necessary if you aren't treated the way you deserve to be treated. NO ONE. Male or female deserves to be physically, mentally or verbally abused. Abuse can take many different forms & no matter how it's packaged it is NEVER ok.
If your mate is physically hurting you please for your own life. End it IMMEDIATELY. Know your worth and never let anyone talk down to you or treat you with any level of disrespect. Because even in the smallest form it's not ok. Let's be strong enough not to fall for the excuse of I was angry. Sorry doesn't make it any better. If you are that mad then you should shut up & walk away. That way you won't have to say I'm sorry later.
As a wife and a mother I am more aware of certain things. And it's no longer about me. It's about my daughter. How I want her to grow up & be treated by whatever man god chooses for her. And although I love my husband very much I will walk away before I allow my child to even THINK it's ok for a man to put his hands on a woman OR speak to her in a disrespectful manner. At this stage in the game it's not something I feel I should discuss. He should just know this. And so should your partner.

Please if you are a victim of domestic violence contact an agency like inMotion and get the help that you & your family need before it's too late.
And for anyone that wants to support our team make it to the top.. Here is the link:
http://storybystory.kintera.org/faf/donorReg/donorPledge.asp?ievent=488542&supid=336095016

One Word Mondays...

PRIDE

Sexy Rainy Days

POST COMES THANKS TO B.D OF BROOKEY'S CAFE BLOG..THANK YOU FOR ENABLING ME TO BE LAZY TODAY! :-)

TGIF!

I don't know what the weather is like where you are, but it's pouring here in the NYC. Sometimes there's nothing sexier than a rainy day....but not so sexy when you're at work.

If I were at home, I'd be bundled up on my sofa with fuzzy socks on, drinking hot chocolate and watching movies - that is....if I was alone. But if you've got a boo, here are some sexy rainy day ideas for you:



1. Make love all day. Even better if it's a thunderstorm. Nothing is sexier than that.

2. Cook together. We always want comfort food when it's cold and rainy outside, and cooking together creates an intimate experience. Hook up a steak and potatoes, feed each other...then work it off later if you know what I mean. Have each other for dessert :-)

3. Take a long, hot bath together. Light some candles, put on some Prince...Sade....Jill Scott - whoever does it for you on sexy days like today. Just relax, be a little romantic and wash each other. Dry each other off, and follow it up with an oil massage. Many sexy things can begin in the bathtub.

4. Make it a romantic movie night. Pop some popcorn, break out the candy, cuddle on the couch and watch Love Jones. ("I love you...that's urgent like a muthaphucka.") You might have to put it on pause for a nookie break ;-)

5. Dance together. Dim the lights, or turn them off completely, plug in your iPod to your stereo and hit the "slow jam" playlist. Hold each other close and let the music move you. I'm getting a little tingly just thinking about it ;-)

What are you favorite, sexy things to do on rainy days?

RIP Troy Davis....

My blogs are usually prewritten on a weekly basis. I sit down write a few & then schedule them to post every day. As a mom with a ton of things to do I don't have the luxury of time to write every day. Today I'm going to make the time. Yes my regularly scheduled blog posted BUT I feel the need to write something I am PASSIONATE about. Troy Davis.
This man was executed last night at 11:08pm EST.

As a wife, mother, sister, friend I am appalled at this act. Because as much as we don't want to admit it this could have easily happened to my husband, dad, brothers or friends.
Now I'm not saying Mr. Davis was the model of perfection. Yes he had a record. BUT as with all trials his past could not be used against him. We are talking about THIS crime. The crime he was sentenced to death for. The killing of Police Officer Mark MacPhail. According to the laws of the land you are innocent until proven guilty. This guilt has to be proven without any doubt. Yes there are some cases that aren't that clear cut & in some ways this was one of them. Back when this case was originally tried there was "evidence" and witness testimony... But in the years since then witnesses have stated they were intimidated by police into their testimony. I would like to believe that our society is somewhat different that it was 20 years ago. Therefore it seems very logical to me that these people would come forward & admit that they lied & why. The same way it seems very logical that anyone in power to grant him a stay would do so. There is a LOT of doubt on this case & why would anyone want to be responsible for executing an possibly innocent man?? That's basically another MURDER. They interviewed Officer MacPhail's mother last night & she said she needed the execution to happen & that she was ready for justice. As a mother I get it. If god forbid anything ever happened to any of my children I would want the person responsible to pay. BUT only after I KNEW for a fact that they were the person that did it. I wouldn't want anyone imprisoned or killed that didn't commit the crime. Because then that means the guilty party is still out there free and able to do it to someone else's kid.
All in all this was just a way to vent about something that is thoroughly bothering me today. I really hope that they investigate this further & get to the bottom of this. And I hope everyone involved with Troy Davis's execution will be able to live with themselves if it's proven that he was innocent. We need to do better ladies & gentlemen. Raise our children better & fight for the changes that this country needs. Yes we have a black president, but he can't do everything & won't be able to. We all need to do something. Change will happen one person at a time.

Rest in Peace Troy Davis. And may god bless you & your family

Prostitution

Every day it seems like a politician, sports figure, actor and any other famous people get caught with a "call girl". These women are paid thousands of dollars by men yet when you break it down there is not really a big difference between a call girl and the women that stand on the corner turning tricks.
Some men don't find anything wrong with paying for sex. Some men feel that it's less of a hassle than a real relationship. There is no commitment and you still get all the pleasure.

My question is how many of you would hire a prostitute/call girl/pay for sex? Or if you ever have under what circumstances did you pay for it. (feel free to answer anonymously if you don't want to offend anyone.

Awkward Moments...

A few weeks ago there was an article on MSN about awkward moments that married couples had with their significant others that helped them get closer to each other. Here are a few of them:


A friend of mine who's gained some weight since her wedding a few years ago recently got stuck in her Spanx, and her husband literally had to peel them off her. "Slowly, every layer of my body - layers I keep hidden from everyone - was spilling out over the material, and there was nothing we could do but laugh," she says. "But later he told me I really shouldn't wear things I can't get in and out of myself, which I suppose is true!"
Is this gift returnable? Is my husband?The year her husband got her a bike for Christmas, Tara, 31, cried - in front of her in-laws. "I'm a runner. I run every day. It's a huge part of who I am. So when my husband walked in with a bike, I was just overcome with this feeling that he didn't really know me," she explains. "And worse, I worried that he never would. I felt bad for upsetting him, but I had to ask where the idea came from." Turns out Tara's husband had recalled the two of them watching a commercial with a couple riding bikes, and, allegedly, Tara had said, "We should start riding bikes together." Aww. "It was such a great story and showed how much thought he'd put into the gift," says Tara. "But what's funny is that while I do remember seeing the commercial, I don't remember saying that! I didn't use the bike until the next summer, when I did a 45-mile ride with coworkers for charity. It was awesome. But sadly, that was the first and last time it's been ridden."
Mood killersAll married women have had that moment where he busts out a new move in bed and you think, Huh? Really? Now? "My husband recently crisscrossed his legs with mine and got all into it, and I was lying there wondering if I should tell him my foot was asleep or not," says Lauren, 33. "Eventually I gently tapped his shoulder and gave him a sweet but slightly pained 'This isn't working' look. He got the message and quickly switched it up. I'm dying to know where he got that move, but I don't want to embarrass him, so I haven't brought it up - yet."

Or try telling your husband you don't like the way he kisses - after five years together. "I love kissing my husband," says Janelle, 31. "But he has this habit of pushing out his bottom lip, and I wonder where the rest of his mouth went. I used to think it was cute, but now it seriously annoys me." One night in bed, Janelle just blurted it out. "I snapped at him, which I'm not proud of, but I couldn't hold it in anymore! It was harsh, since we both agree kissing is a superimportant element in our sex life," she says.
He looked crushed, then got defensive, then told her he wished she'd said something sooner. "It was very uncomfortable, but it also felt good to admit something so personal, even hurtful, and not have it be the end of the world," she says. "And he realized that I didn't want to stop kissing him; we just needed some new techniques. So far, so good!"

SO Blog family please feel free to share any awkward or embarrassing moments you have had with your mate.

The List...

Back when Friends was on the air there was an episode in which each friend gave their list of five celebrities they were allowed to sleep with and their significant other could not get mad...
SO blog family whether you are single or in a relationship or whatever please feel free to share your list:

One Word Mondays...

Today's word is......SEXY....

Date Night....

Anyone who knows me knows that I am a VERY big advocate of date night. I do not believe that courtship and dating end at marriage and kids. I feel that mommy & daddy time is greatly needed and helps relationships last. Now normally our daughter has a bedtime and once she is asleep that my time with my husband to talk, watch a movie, have a few drinks, get busy..LOL whatever we want to do. But we are also fortunate enough to have two very good babysitting options for when we want a night OUT. So last night while the baby is away for a few days with my parents we had our "DATE NIGHT"... We had an awesome time going out to a Japanese Restaurant and to a movie. We got to chat over dinner & laugh & just have an evening out to enjoy each others company. I love these nights because they give us both a break from everything & give us a reminder of why we love each other. He is probably reminded about what a goof ball I am & so am I. And although yes sometimes our date nights are fancy I must confess that my favorite date nights are the ones where we just keep it simple as we did last night. Throw some jeans on & go grab a bite to eat and catch a movie.
So blog family...Let us hear your stories??

What is your favorite type of date night????? Or if you have a very memorable date and want to share go ahead....

Rings...

Listening to the radio this morning as I do on my way to work every morning the talk show hosts began talking about Kris Humphries. Apparently ever since his oh so lavishly fake (my opinion..LOL) wedding to Kim Kardashian he has not worn his wedding ring. Numerous photos have been taken of him & without his wedding band... The radio personalities argued back & forth as to what could possibly be the reason for him not wanting to wear it & if this was appropriate. They had a bunch of women call in to give different "reasons" as to why their husbands don't wear their rings. A few said since their husbands don't wear their wedding bands they stopped wearing them also.
Now I do not believe two wrongs make a right so I wouldn't stop wearing my wedding bands JUST because my husband stopped wearing his. But I would also have a problem with my husband not wearing his wedding band. I wouldn't care if his ring finger got chopped of in an accident. I would get him a prosthetic finger & slap that bad boy right back on their.
Extreme maybe but that ring is a symbol of the commitment & the vows we took with one another. Granted some people argue that when you have a ring on it may make members of the opposite sex more attracted to you. And in some cases this is true. But in my opinion the rings aren't about other people they are about us.

SO Blog family.. How do you all feel about wedding rings? Do you think they are necessary? Do you think they should be worn at all times?

One Word Mondays......

BEAUTY.....

Although normally I wouldn't when I'm drunk I will....

The weekend is here. Time to kick back, relax & unwind and possibly have a few drinks. Some people take on a different personality when they are drunk.. Anyone that has watched Jersey Shore knows that people let their guards down & sometimes will do anything OR anybody when they are drunk...

So it's confession time ladies & gents.........

Finish the sentence Although normally I wouldn't when I'm drunk I will...... (bonus points for telling us which liquor brings you over the edge! :-))

P.S.-Please drink responsibly... :-)

Swingers

Last night my husband & I watched a movie called Sex and Breakfast. An independent film starring Macaulay Culkin. FIRST OFF I disliked how the movie ended because it just ended soo abruptly that it felt like they just ran out of money & ended it there.
ANYWHO... The movie was about two couples that are going through some stuff & start seeing a sex therapist for ways to "fix" their problems... blah blah blah They decide to be matched up and swap partners. The four of them go to a hotel and rent a room and the two wives sleep with the men that are not their husbands. Now while wife A is having sex with Husband B, Husband A is watching....and having sex with Wife B... and vice versa and all around.

Now personally I don't know how comfortable I would be having sex with another man while my husband is watching me.. (Wife A had NOOO problems by the way..Not an OUNCE of stage fright..lol) and I definitely don't think I would be ok watching him have sex with another woman. But I don't like to judge so what say you blog family..What do you think about swingers? Do you think it can make or break a relationship? Are there rules for this type of relationship??

HUMP DAY...

So this morning when my husband & I were driving into work the radio was talking about a woman in France who sued her now ex-husband and won $14,000. WHY you ask...

She was awarded $14k due to her husband not giving it up enough and when he did it wasn't satisfying enough for her.

Now I have NOOO clue how one would even prove this but hey she won so she must have had some damn good evidence. Also the normal stereotype is that the WOMEN are always the ones holding out & not giving it up & being boring. A man is always quick to say if you won't do it another woman will. So it was a wonderfully refreshing change to hear of a woman's needs and desires being acknowledged. WE NEED IT TOO & WE NEED IT TO BE GOOD. :-)

Again I understand we work hard, kids, etc etc etc but if after working, cooking, and dealing with the kids a woman can still say LET'S GO. Then baby you better handle your business... After all if you don't do it.......

So what say you bloggers?? How long is TOO long to go without it? Do you think women should be compensated if we don't get it frequently? Consequently would a man be able to sue if he doesn't get it often enough?

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One word Mondays ON Tuesday...

Although today is technically Tuesday it is the beginning of the week and I like to start the week off with food for thought.

So we are going to have one word Monday today.

Today's word is PATIENCE.

HOW DO YOU WANT IT???

It's Friday.

Here's your thought for the weekend...

How do you prefer your love making/sex sessions?

QUICKIES.. OR long drawn out love making sessions?

Do you need the whole romance of it all.. OR do you just want to get it in?


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Random Facts

Ok here we go again. Time for our Random Sexual Facts...

1. 70% of women would rather give up sex than their cellphones (they must be doing it wrong)

2. Avocadoes were known to the Aztecs as the fertility fruit. Avocado comes from the word Ahuacatl or testicles

3. 24% of men climax only when a female moans or screams

4. 33% of women say missionary is their favorite position...

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