Monday, December 5, 2011

One Word Monday...

And today's one word Monday word is:


Monday, November 28, 2011

One Word Mondays.....

Happy Monday. I hope everyone had a wonderful holiday weekend...And with that today's Cyber Monday Word is:


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Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Wandering Eye...

I had a reader ask me yesterday to pose a question to the group. So here goes:

She wants me to ask the family how a woman should take guys that are in serious relationships that say they love their significant other yet look at other females. Is this ok? Is it cheating? Does it mean they don't love you? How should we females handle that situation?

Here is my opinion..
My husband loves me. I do not doubt this for a second. Does he look at other females. YES. Is this ok..Sure is. Is it cheating? NOPE. Does this mean he doesn't love me? NOPE. How should we handle it. Nothing to handle.

He's human and has eyes. As long as he isn't disrespecting me by breaking his neck to check some other chick out while I am standing there it's all good. Heck there have been times I've told him that girl's boob  is about to pop out of her shirt WATCH.. Can I be mad at him if he looked NO I just told him to. I'm secure enough in myself to know that if he looks at a random girl it doesn't mean anything. I'm also secure enough to know that if he ends up pursuing any other random chick he is NOT the man for me & it's time to move on.
Besides the question I must ask a woman before they get worked up over a man looking... Have you ever looked at another man. Even if it is just for a split second. Even if it meant nothing???

In my opinion if him looking at another woman bothers you this can mean one of two things. Either you the woman has some insecurities about yourself OR you don't trust him that it will end at just him looking at another female.You feel that for whatever reason he may one day take it further & disrespect. In which case you have no relationship...

Again this is just my opinion but I am curious to see what you all have to say about it...


Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Losing Your Virginity

Does everyone remember their first time? When they were just ready (or not) to have sex for the first time? Maybe you were nervous, Maybe you wasn't.. Now sometimes your first is special & dear and sometimes they can be a nightmare that you want to forget. Sometimes it happened in the most romantic of places and sometimes it could have happened in the ghettoist of places... We as a society put so much importance on having sex that we've become a bit desensitized. Again with daily life and busy schedules sometimes you gotta just get it in, but imagine how the sex would be if once every few months you approached sex as if it was your first time. What would you do for each other? How would you dress? How would you want it? And what do you think this would do for your relationship?

Sound off people what do you think about doing that?? And if you have any funny/scary or crazy first time stories.. feel free to share.

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Stand by your man...

On the radio this morning they were talking about Herman Cain's wife who finally spoke out regarding allegations of her husbands alleged sexual harrassment. She basically said there was no way he could have done that blah blah blah blah blah. We've heard this all before. Powerful man... extramarital affair with a man, hooker, tranny, someone that works for him, etc etc... Then we see the press conference where the man either admits or denies his wrong doing and his wife is standing next to him pledging her commitment to him for the rest of her life as if they were renewing their wedding vows.
Now I took a vow for better or worse but if my husband gets caught in a hotel room butt naked in some Jello with a hooker... I think he knows he'll be going home to a pretty empty house. I digress...
I always wonder how these women feel, what they think, if they want to slap the man. Heck maybe that is why I am soo addicted to The Good Wife. I always just want to see one of these women punch their husbands in the throat. :-) but that is just me.. So sound off. Ladies what would it take for you to stand by your man? What would be the last straw or too much.. Men what do you think of these men OR these women? Do you think less of them or loose any respect?

Monday, November 14, 2011

One Word Mondays...

Happy Monday everyone...

And today's word is......................... attraction..

Friday, November 11, 2011

Sexy Random Thoughts...

Ok so today I will be sitting in my daughters preschool show but far be it for me to deprive you of my blog that I know you look forward to.. So Feel free to leave/list your sexy random thoughts/Facts.. or just bizarre stories.

I will start:

Did you know that sex is a natural antihistamine? It helps open clogged nasal passages & It can even help combat hay fever and asthma..

Have a Passionate Weekend!

Thursday, November 10, 2011

Turn offs

Thus far on this blog we have examined how to keep things spicy in relationships, things that keep us attracted, what we like, etc etc... But let's talk about the flip side..What are your biggest turn offs? What small minute thing can a member of the same/opposite sex do that will turn you off completely?


Wednesday, November 9, 2011


Yesterday the world lost a great pioneer in the Hip Hop game at the tender age of 44. Dwight Errington Myers better known as Heavy D. He was the original overweight lover and made big dudes cool. He was a pioneer and if you followed him on twitter a very inspirational person. He is another prime example of you never know when your time is going to come so enjoy each day as if it was your last. And like he said we should try to be inspired every day...
Feel free to share your thoughts, feelings, or inspirations...

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

I do....

Good Morning Everyone,

Although it's my day off and I have something that I need to get done I'm taking a break to write my blog. Yesterday we had one work Mondays and the word was marriage. A few of your gave your opinions of what marriage meant to you. Now normally I give my input but I just stepped back for a minute. Kim K decided (whether consciously or not) to make a mockary of the institution of marriage. My opinion couldn't be described in one or two words.
Til death do you part..
This is the vow you take when you get married. Better or worse. Sickness and health. Richer or Poorer... Unfortunately people get caught up in the dress, party and fun of the whole event they ignore or don't really think about these vows. When you marry you not only vow to be with that person ONLY for the rest of your life. You are both taking a commitment to be there for each other at all times, and to support & love each other at all times. It's not easy. There are going to be days when you disagree and there are going to be days when you fight. You may love each other forever but there are sure going to be days you don't like each other. Heck I've only been married for less than 4 months and even I know this. No matter how life was before you said I do things do change when you get married and especially when you have kids & there is an adjustment period and you learn as you go along. The point of marriage is to promise to learn & grow together. At the end of the day I feel that this decision should not be entered into lightly. You need to think about it carefully. And work together. Talk as much as you can about everything and if you are having problems take a step back, a deep breath & seek the help of a marriage counselor or therapist.

Monday, November 7, 2011

I'm back with ONE WORD MONDAYS

Good Monday Morning Peoples...

I took a brief break... Mental health time because sometimes you gotta just put yourself first. :-)

But now I am back & ready to get down to business. And with that here is one word Mondays....

Todays word is Marriage.... (thank you Kim Kardashian...)

Thursday, October 6, 2011


So I guess we can all agree that a very brilliant & successful businessman passed away last night. A man that had essentially everything.. Money, Power, Success, all the latest toys from Apple.. :-)
Yet none of this mattered because he couldn't buy health. He caught one of the worst diseases and in the worst form. Cancer. And at the young age of 56 his life is over but his legacy remains.
That's why although we must work, pay bills and do things we may not want to do. It is also very important to enjoy life. Enjoy and appreciate the ones you love. Spend time with them as much as possible. Don't take every business call. Put your kids to bed 5 minutes later & give them hugs & kisses. Heck stay in and seduce your mate. Because once it's all over you won't ever get to do it again. And your friends & family will be wishing they could.

R.I.P. Mr. Steve Jobs. Thank you for your contributions to the world and may your family & friends find peace.

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

REPOST... Donate while you still can!!!

On October 6, 2011 I along with a few of my girlfriends will join 1,000 other supporters to climb the steps of 1411 Broadway—a 42-story skyscraper in the heart of Manhattan's Fashion District and Times Square. Why are we doing this? To raise funds to support inMotion, a nonprofit that provides free legal services to battered women and their children. This is our attempt to help battered women & children get the help they need and put us a step in the direction to end domestic violence. The timing of this is perfect as it coincides with our book club book. This month we are reading The End of November by Nicole Sharpe. This is a TRAGIC tale of a women growing up seeing her father abuse her mother & ultimately murdering her and how her life was affected after that. This story hit my hard because it wasn't just a story I was reading. I met her. I stood in her living room and talked to her. And at the time I would have NEVER known everything she had been through.
In my blog and in my business as a passion party consultant I discuss how to keep the romance alive. How to keep things spicy. How to help make a relationship work. BUT none of this is important or necessary if you aren't treated the way you deserve to be treated. NO ONE. Male or female deserves to be physically, mentally or verbally abused. Abuse can take many different forms & no matter how it's packaged it is NEVER ok.
If your mate is physically hurting you please for your own life. End it IMMEDIATELY. Know your worth and never let anyone talk down to you or treat you with any level of disrespect. Because even in the smallest form it's not ok. Let's be strong enough not to fall for the excuse of I was angry. Sorry doesn't make it any better. If you are that mad then you should shut up & walk away. That way you won't have to say I'm sorry later.
As a wife and a mother I am more aware of certain things. And it's no longer about me. It's about my daughter. How I want her to grow up & be treated by whatever man god chooses for her. And although I love my husband very much I will walk away before I allow my child to even THINK it's ok for a man to put his hands on a woman OR speak to her in a disrespectful manner. At this stage in the game it's not something I feel I should discuss. He should just know this. And so should your partner.

Please if you are a victim of domestic violence contact an agency like inMotion and get the help that you & your family need before it's too late.
And for anyone that wants to support our team make it to the top.. Here is the link:

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

What would you do if.....

So I am addicted to TV. I love reality tv, sitcoms, drama, food shows & medical shows. There is a new show on the investigation discovery channel called Strange Sex. It showcases different sexual ailments that have happened to real people and give you the treatment (if available) and tell you how the person lived & dealt with the problem. Soo of course I will highlight a bunch of them in this blog.
Here is the problem tackled in the first episode I saw...

In this episode they spoke to a woman that was born without a VAGINA.. She basically was born with the vaginal lips & clitoris but she had no vaginal opening for intercourse, childbirth etc. She did not have a uterus or ovaries,etc either. She lived like this for most of her life until the age of 17 when she underwent a procedure to open her up and carve out a canal. They then insert a device that looks like a hollow dildo but it has to remain inside her for a year in order to preserve the opening. She stated that it was sooo painful she couldn't keep it inside & therefore had it removed & the opening closed. Two years later she met a man, they fell in love & she had to inform him of her ailment. He decided surprisingly enough to stick by her & be with her. For her sake & the sake of their relationship she underwent the procedure to give her a vaginal opening again & this time it took. They got married and now enjoy a healthy sex life. They are unable to have children & will probably adopt in order to fulfill that dream.

Now men... Would you be able to date/marry a women that had no vaginal opening? Which caused her not to be able to have sex? Women how would you feel in this situation..

Friday, September 30, 2011


Today is the last day of September. It's a Friday... My head is about to explode with everything that I want to accomplish before the year ends. I'm excited about the new possibilities. I'm excited that I have a few parties coming up. I'm proud of the things my daughter has accomplished especially in the past month. I'm proud of the way my husband has been hustling working two full time jobs.
I'm proud of my other lil babies Lady C & Diva who are blossoming and joining my Soso and forming Triple Trouble.
I'm proud of my friends who recently had babies & are wonderful mommies. And I'm proud of my sister wife Aisha who is going to change the world with her publishing company. And yea I guess I can be proud of Hayden & his photography too.. LOL  And Michel who is one day going to put H&R Block out of business.

I don't know if it's because it's sunny, or Friday or what..but I'm extremely happy & positive & thankful for what I have & the people that I have in my life.  So I'd like to say I hope you are too & have a sexy, happy & fun weekend!


Thursday, September 29, 2011


As always please feel free to share your own facts:

Did you know that Vibrators were original used to treat Hysteria in women? Orginal treatment for Hysteria was digital manipulation (fingering) but doctors felt that took to long & came up with a vibrator to make the proceess go faster...

The first vibrators were steam powered...

Orignally condoms were made from chemically treated linen and animal tissue (usually intestine or bladder)


Wednesday, September 28, 2011

A lil bit of Inspiration on Hump Day...

I had no idea what to blog about today but then I got an email from one of my sister-wives (I'll blog about that topic soon) and it was really nice. So I figured I would just post that and give you all a bit of inspiration to get you through the rest of the week...Thank you Michel

I woke up early today, excited over all I get to do before the clock strikes midnight. I have responsibilities to fulfill today. I am important.

My job is to choose what kind of day I am going to have.

Today I can complain because the weather is rainy or I can be thankful that the grass is getting watered for free.

Today I can feel sad that I don't have more money or I can be glad that my finances encourage me to plan my purchases wisely and guide me away from waste.

Today I can grumble about my health or I can rejoice that I am alive.

Today I can lament over all that my parents didn't give me when I was growing up or I can feel grateful that they allowed me to be born.

Today I can cry because roses have thorns or I can celebrate that thorns have roses.

Today I can mourn my lack of friends or I can excitedly embark upon a quest to discover new relationships.

Today I can whine because I have to go to work or I can shout for joy because I have a job to do.

Today I can complain because I have to go to school or eagerly open my mind and fill it with rich new tidbits of knowledge.

Today I can murmur dejectedly because I have to do housework or I can feel honored because the Lord has provided shelter for my mind, body and soul.

Today stretches ahead of me, waiting to be shaped. And here I am, the sculptor who gets to do the shaping.

What today will be like is up to me. I get to choose what kind of day I will have!

-- Author Unknown

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

It's NOT ok....

On October 6, 2011 I along with a few of my girlfriends will join 1,000 other supporters to climb the steps of 1411 Broadway—a 42-story skyscraper in the heart of Manhattan's Fashion District and Times Square. Why are we doing this? To raise funds to support inMotion, a nonprofit that provides free legal services to battered women and their children. This is our attempt to help battered women & children get the help they need and put us a step in the direction to end domestic violence. The timing of this is perfect as it coincides with our book club book. This month we are reading The End of November by Nicole Sharpe. This is a TRAGIC tale of a women growing up seeing her father abuse her mother & ultimately murdering her and how her life was affected after that. This story hit my hard because it wasn't just a story I was reading. I met her. I stood in her living room and talked to her. And at the time I would have NEVER known everything she had been through.
In my blog and in my business as a passion party consultant I discuss how to keep the romance alive. How to keep things spicy. How to help make a relationship work. BUT none of this is important or necessary if you aren't treated the way you deserve to be treated. NO ONE. Male or female deserves to be physically, mentally or verbally abused. Abuse can take many different forms & no matter how it's packaged it is NEVER ok.
If your mate is physically hurting you please for your own life. End it IMMEDIATELY. Know your worth and never let anyone talk down to you or treat you with any level of disrespect. Because even in the smallest form it's not ok. Let's be strong enough not to fall for the excuse of I was angry. Sorry doesn't make it any better. If you are that mad then you should shut up & walk away. That way you won't have to say I'm sorry later.
As a wife and a mother I am more aware of certain things. And it's no longer about me. It's about my daughter. How I want her to grow up & be treated by whatever man god chooses for her. And although I love my husband very much I will walk away before I allow my child to even THINK it's ok for a man to put his hands on a woman OR speak to her in a disrespectful manner. At this stage in the game it's not something I feel I should discuss. He should just know this. And so should your partner.

Please if you are a victim of domestic violence contact an agency like inMotion and get the help that you & your family need before it's too late.
And for anyone that wants to support our team make it to the top.. Here is the link:

Friday, September 23, 2011

Sexy Rainy Days



I don't know what the weather is like where you are, but it's pouring here in the NYC. Sometimes there's nothing sexier than a rainy day....but not so sexy when you're at work.

If I were at home, I'd be bundled up on my sofa with fuzzy socks on, drinking hot chocolate and watching movies - that is....if I was alone. But if you've got a boo, here are some sexy rainy day ideas for you:

Kissing in the rain Pictures, Images and Photos

1. Make love all day. Even better if it's a thunderstorm. Nothing is sexier than that.

2. Cook together. We always want comfort food when it's cold and rainy outside, and cooking together creates an intimate experience. Hook up a steak and potatoes, feed each other...then work it off later if you know what I mean. Have each other for dessert :-)

3. Take a long, hot bath together. Light some candles, put on some Prince...Sade....Jill Scott - whoever does it for you on sexy days like today. Just relax, be a little romantic and wash each other. Dry each other off, and follow it up with an oil massage. Many sexy things can begin in the bathtub.

4. Make it a romantic movie night. Pop some popcorn, break out the candy, cuddle on the couch and watch Love Jones. ("I love you...that's urgent like a muthaphucka.") You might have to put it on pause for a nookie break ;-)

5. Dance together. Dim the lights, or turn them off completely, plug in your iPod to your stereo and hit the "slow jam" playlist. Hold each other close and let the music move you. I'm getting a little tingly just thinking about it ;-)

What are you favorite, sexy things to do on rainy days?

Thursday, September 22, 2011

RIP Troy Davis....

My blogs are usually prewritten on a weekly basis. I sit down write a few & then schedule them to post every day. As a mom with a ton of things to do I don't have the luxury of time to write every day. Today I'm going to make the time. Yes my regularly scheduled blog posted BUT I feel the need to write something I am PASSIONATE about. Troy Davis.
This man was executed last night at 11:08pm EST.

As a wife, mother, sister, friend I am appalled at this act. Because as much as we don't want to admit it this could have easily happened to my husband, dad, brothers or friends.
Now I'm not saying Mr. Davis was the model of perfection. Yes he had a record. BUT as with all trials his past could not be used against him. We are talking about THIS crime. The crime he was sentenced to death for. The killing of Police Officer Mark MacPhail. According to the laws of the land you are innocent until proven guilty. This guilt has to be proven without any doubt. Yes there are some cases that aren't that clear cut & in some ways this was one of them. Back when this case was originally tried there was "evidence" and witness testimony... But in the years since then witnesses have stated they were intimidated by police into their testimony. I would like to believe that our society is somewhat different that it was 20 years ago. Therefore it seems very logical to me that these people would come forward & admit that they lied & why. The same way it seems very logical that anyone in power to grant him a stay would do so. There is a LOT of doubt on this case & why would anyone want to be responsible for executing an possibly innocent man?? That's basically another MURDER. They interviewed Officer MacPhail's mother last night & she said she needed the execution to happen & that she was ready for justice. As a mother I get it. If god forbid anything ever happened to any of my children I would want the person responsible to pay. BUT only after I KNEW for a fact that they were the person that did it. I wouldn't want anyone imprisoned or killed that didn't commit the crime. Because then that means the guilty party is still out there free and able to do it to someone else's kid.
All in all this was just a way to vent about something that is thoroughly bothering me today. I really hope that they investigate this further & get to the bottom of this. And I hope everyone involved with Troy Davis's execution will be able to live with themselves if it's proven that he was innocent. We need to do better ladies & gentlemen. Raise our children better & fight for the changes that this country needs. Yes we have a black president, but he can't do everything & won't be able to. We all need to do something. Change will happen one person at a time.

Rest in Peace Troy Davis. And may god bless you & your family


Every day it seems like a politician, sports figure, actor and any other famous people get caught with a "call girl". These women are paid thousands of dollars by men yet when you break it down there is not really a big difference between a call girl and the women that stand on the corner turning tricks.
Some men don't find anything wrong with paying for sex. Some men feel that it's less of a hassle than a real relationship. There is no commitment and you still get all the pleasure.

My question is how many of you would hire a prostitute/call girl/pay for sex? Or if you ever have under what circumstances did you pay for it. (feel free to answer anonymously if you don't want to offend anyone.

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Awkward Moments...

A few weeks ago there was an article on MSN about awkward moments that married couples had with their significant others that helped them get closer to each other. Here are a few of them:

A friend of mine who's gained some weight since her wedding a few years ago recently got stuck in her Spanx, and her husband literally had to peel them off her. "Slowly, every layer of my body - layers I keep hidden from everyone - was spilling out over the material, and there was nothing we could do but laugh," she says. "But later he told me I really shouldn't wear things I can't get in and out of myself, which I suppose is true!"
Is this gift returnable? Is my husband?The year her husband got her a bike for Christmas, Tara, 31, cried - in front of her in-laws. "I'm a runner. I run every day. It's a huge part of who I am. So when my husband walked in with a bike, I was just overcome with this feeling that he didn't really know me," she explains. "And worse, I worried that he never would. I felt bad for upsetting him, but I had to ask where the idea came from." Turns out Tara's husband had recalled the two of them watching a commercial with a couple riding bikes, and, allegedly, Tara had said, "We should start riding bikes together." Aww. "It was such a great story and showed how much thought he'd put into the gift," says Tara. "But what's funny is that while I do remember seeing the commercial, I don't remember saying that! I didn't use the bike until the next summer, when I did a 45-mile ride with coworkers for charity. It was awesome. But sadly, that was the first and last time it's been ridden."
Mood killersAll married women have had that moment where he busts out a new move in bed and you think, Huh? Really? Now? "My husband recently crisscrossed his legs with mine and got all into it, and I was lying there wondering if I should tell him my foot was asleep or not," says Lauren, 33. "Eventually I gently tapped his shoulder and gave him a sweet but slightly pained 'This isn't working' look. He got the message and quickly switched it up. I'm dying to know where he got that move, but I don't want to embarrass him, so I haven't brought it up - yet."

Or try telling your husband you don't like the way he kisses - after five years together. "I love kissing my husband," says Janelle, 31. "But he has this habit of pushing out his bottom lip, and I wonder where the rest of his mouth went. I used to think it was cute, but now it seriously annoys me." One night in bed, Janelle just blurted it out. "I snapped at him, which I'm not proud of, but I couldn't hold it in anymore! It was harsh, since we both agree kissing is a superimportant element in our sex life," she says.
He looked crushed, then got defensive, then told her he wished she'd said something sooner. "It was very uncomfortable, but it also felt good to admit something so personal, even hurtful, and not have it be the end of the world," she says. "And he realized that I didn't want to stop kissing him; we just needed some new techniques. So far, so good!"

SO Blog family please feel free to share any awkward or embarrassing moments you have had with your mate.

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

The List...

Back when Friends was on the air there was an episode in which each friend gave their list of five celebrities they were allowed to sleep with and their significant other could not get mad...
SO blog family whether you are single or in a relationship or whatever please feel free to share your list:

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Date Night....

Anyone who knows me knows that I am a VERY big advocate of date night. I do not believe that courtship and dating end at marriage and kids. I feel that mommy & daddy time is greatly needed and helps relationships last. Now normally our daughter has a bedtime and once she is asleep that my time with my husband to talk, watch a movie, have a few drinks, get busy..LOL whatever we want to do. But we are also fortunate enough to have two very good babysitting options for when we want a night OUT. So last night while the baby is away for a few days with my parents we had our "DATE NIGHT"... We had an awesome time going out to a Japanese Restaurant and to a movie. We got to chat over dinner & laugh & just have an evening out to enjoy each others company. I love these nights because they give us both a break from everything & give us a reminder of why we love each other. He is probably reminded about what a goof ball I am & so am I. And although yes sometimes our date nights are fancy I must confess that my favorite date nights are the ones where we just keep it simple as we did last night. Throw some jeans on & go grab a bite to eat and catch a movie.
So blog family...Let us hear your stories??

What is your favorite type of date night????? Or if you have a very memorable date and want to share go ahead....

Tuesday, September 13, 2011


Listening to the radio this morning as I do on my way to work every morning the talk show hosts began talking about Kris Humphries. Apparently ever since his oh so lavishly fake (my opinion..LOL) wedding to Kim Kardashian he has not worn his wedding ring. Numerous photos have been taken of him & without his wedding band... The radio personalities argued back & forth as to what could possibly be the reason for him not wanting to wear it & if this was appropriate. They had a bunch of women call in to give different "reasons" as to why their husbands don't wear their rings. A few said since their husbands don't wear their wedding bands they stopped wearing them also.
Now I do not believe two wrongs make a right so I wouldn't stop wearing my wedding bands JUST because my husband stopped wearing his. But I would also have a problem with my husband not wearing his wedding band. I wouldn't care if his ring finger got chopped of in an accident. I would get him a prosthetic finger & slap that bad boy right back on their.
Extreme maybe but that ring is a symbol of the commitment & the vows we took with one another. Granted some people argue that when you have a ring on it may make members of the opposite sex more attracted to you. And in some cases this is true. But in my opinion the rings aren't about other people they are about us.

SO Blog family.. How do you all feel about wedding rings? Do you think they are necessary? Do you think they should be worn at all times?

Friday, September 9, 2011

Although normally I wouldn't when I'm drunk I will....

The weekend is here. Time to kick back, relax & unwind and possibly have a few drinks. Some people take on a different personality when they are drunk.. Anyone that has watched Jersey Shore knows that people let their guards down & sometimes will do anything OR anybody when they are drunk...

So it's confession time ladies & gents.........

Finish the sentence Although normally I wouldn't when I'm drunk I will...... (bonus points for telling us which liquor brings you over the edge! :-))

P.S.-Please drink responsibly... :-)

Thursday, September 8, 2011


Last night my husband & I watched a movie called Sex and Breakfast. An independent film starring Macaulay Culkin. FIRST OFF I disliked how the movie ended because it just ended soo abruptly that it felt like they just ran out of money & ended it there.
ANYWHO... The movie was about two couples that are going through some stuff & start seeing a sex therapist for ways to "fix" their problems... blah blah blah They decide to be matched up and swap partners. The four of them go to a hotel and rent a room and the two wives sleep with the men that are not their husbands. Now while wife A is having sex with Husband B, Husband A is watching....and having sex with Wife B... and vice versa and all around.

Now personally I don't know how comfortable I would be having sex with another man while my husband is watching me.. (Wife A had NOOO problems by the way..Not an OUNCE of stage and I definitely don't think I would be ok watching him have sex with another woman. But I don't like to judge so what say you blog family..What do you think about swingers? Do you think it can make or break a relationship? Are there rules for this type of relationship??

Wednesday, September 7, 2011


So this morning when my husband & I were driving into work the radio was talking about a woman in France who sued her now ex-husband and won $14,000. WHY you ask...

She was awarded $14k due to her husband not giving it up enough and when he did it wasn't satisfying enough for her.

Now I have NOOO clue how one would even prove this but hey she won so she must have had some damn good evidence. Also the normal stereotype is that the WOMEN are always the ones holding out & not giving it up & being boring. A man is always quick to say if you won't do it another woman will. So it was a wonderfully refreshing change to hear of a woman's needs and desires being acknowledged. WE NEED IT TOO & WE NEED IT TO BE GOOD. :-)

Again I understand we work hard, kids, etc etc etc but if after working, cooking, and dealing with the kids a woman can still say LET'S GO. Then baby you better handle your business... After all if you don't do it.......

So what say you bloggers?? How long is TOO long to go without it? Do you think women should be compensated if we don't get it frequently? Consequently would a man be able to sue if he doesn't get it often enough?


Tuesday, September 6, 2011

One word Mondays ON Tuesday...

Although today is technically Tuesday it is the beginning of the week and I like to start the week off with food for thought.

So we are going to have one word Monday today.

Today's word is PATIENCE.

Friday, September 2, 2011


It's Friday.

Here's your thought for the weekend...

How do you prefer your love making/sex sessions?

QUICKIES.. OR long drawn out love making sessions?

Do you need the whole romance of it all.. OR do you just want to get it in?


Thursday, September 1, 2011

Random Facts

Ok here we go again. Time for our Random Sexual Facts...

1. 70% of women would rather give up sex than their cellphones (they must be doing it wrong)

2. Avocadoes were known to the Aztecs as the fertility fruit. Avocado comes from the word Ahuacatl or testicles

3. 24% of men climax only when a female moans or screams

4. 33% of women say missionary is their favorite position...


Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Sweet Escape......

If you could take a romantic escape with your sweetheart (current, potential or future anywhere in the world. (MONEY NOT BEING AN OBJECT. Where would you go?


I'd want to go to one of those exotic islands like Tahiti or Bora Bora and be in one of those secluded bungalows on stilts completely surrounded by water. You know the ones that have windows that open all the way going all around. I'd want to be there for like a month.

Now GO....

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

OPEN Sesame....

A friend of mine posted this question on her blog & considering how "open-minded" everyone is on her blog I was surprised to see how heated the discussion got. So I'm extremely curious to see how you all react to this topic.


Some celebs have come out to say that they have open marriages and that they have a respect and understanding towards it and it keeps them happy.
I used to think this was for rich "EXTRA" people who just wanted to be fancy until one of the people that usually comments on her blog stated that him & his wife had an open relationship. In my head I thought WOW regular REAL people do stuff like that. I respected him for admitting that in a public forum because not everyone would and after seeing some of the opinions out there now I know why not everyone would..LOL
I always say to each his own. Some people wouldn't be open to doing things I do the same way I might not be open to doing things other people would do. Personally I couldn't do it. And I know for a fact my husband would probably not be open to the idea of sharing me. But I do want to hear how the rest of you feel...

So would any of you be open to an OPEN relationship/marriage or do you already have one? Are there any rules that you would put in place or have put in place to keep everything in check. Do you have any fears about this arrangement?

Friday, August 26, 2011

Hurricane Fun...

So this weekend with the big storm looming we will all be stuck in the house.. Wouldn't it be nice to make the best of it and have some fun with whoever you are stuck in the house with??? Here are some ideas on how to pass the time til Irene leaves. Feel free to add your own:

1. If your single invite someone over on Saturday evening so they get stuck in your house!!!

2. Make sure you have candles lit..

3. Make sure you have whipped cream & chocolate syrup in the fridge..

4. Oh yea food & water too..

5. Have an indoor picnic.

6. Watch movies

7. Take a bubble bath together.

8. Play twister....naked... :-)

9. Find new & interesting ways to wake each other up..

10. Even if the lights don't go out where you are turn them all off & play hide & seek..


Thursday, August 25, 2011

You can have it all....

The other day I checked Twitter and there it was.....a tweet from the official@passionparties. It said very cute blog...WOW I thought. Now let's be honest. The point of this blog, my twitter and my facebook account is to get back on track with my passion party business after taking a break for a few months to plan my wedding and get married. Now that the fall is coming I am getting back to business full steam ahead and my effort was being recognized. This is the beauty of this business. Not only do you have the full support of EVERYONE on the team but you feel that support all the time. There is no rivalry or fighting. No competition, just support. Whether its a tweet from Kansas, a facebook comment from Nevada, an email from Cali or a phone call from my upline in NY, there is constant support and encouragement.
Now that I have your attention let me give you some info about the business. I am an independent consultant. What does that mean? It means everything is up to me. I pick when  I want to work, How often, the types of parties, method of advertising, etc. Usually my parties are at night which works great. I get to spend all day with my baby girl and then while she's asleep mommy goes to do a party and she never knows I'm gone. After all she's the reason I joined the business to have the flexibility. I've been a consultant for slightly over a year. I joined a few months after having her  as a way to earn extra money while I was working part time. The beauty of it is I have fun while doing it. Hello I get paid to PARTY. Besides if I'm not giving off that fun vibe how are any of my guests going to enjoy themselves. 
Some people still feel like a passion party is a little wild but its actually a really fun way to relax and enjoy yourselves with your girlfriends or get a group of couples together. We play games, I do a presentation, you place whatever orders you want and everyone goes home happy. I'm working with one of my soon to be hostess on a specialty cocktail for her party. We're going to change the name of a drink to something for HER party & that's going to be what's served at her party.
What are the advantages of the business???
For the hostesses the party doesn't cost anything. There are no fees or upfront payments. Plus you qualify for gifts, discounts & hostess incentives!!! So basically you throw the party & get back in return!!
For people that join the business. You gain financial freedom. Gain a ton of friends. Have fun while working AND get paid very well. No waiting for a check in the mail. You make your money at the party. EASY...

So now that you have all that information sit down and think HOW can I support Annamaria...Do I want to host a party OR do I want to join her team... Once you have that figured out let me know!!!
Contact me today using:

There are sections on my website to request a party date AND to request info on how to become a consultant!! :-)

And Remember you too can have it all!!

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Sexual Bucket List

Thanks to the natural disasters that seem to be occuring almost daily along the East Coast & Carribean lately I figured we should discuss our immortality by exploring our bucket list.. Things we want to do sexually before we die.

So think carefully (although some of you I know don't have to think at all) and come up with as many or as little as you want..

If you knew you were about to die what would your sexual bucket list be???


Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Excuses, Excuses, Excuses....

I was supposed to go home & blog last night but I had a million and one things to do..So I didn't and came into work early to write it. I allowed myself to come up with an excuse for not blogging..not good since this blog has helped expose my business to more people. It got me to thinking about excuses people give for not having sex....
And from there my blog topic was born!! :-)

What are the craziest, dumbest, wackest excuses for not having sex have you heard, given or been given???


Monday, August 22, 2011

One Word Mondays

And today's word is ANAL.. :-)

Hey this is a passion party blog..once in a while the words will have a sexual undertone...LMAO..

Friday, August 19, 2011

Last Night I......

I had such a good time with Random Fact Thursday and hearing all of your wonderful facts (I learned a thing or two) that I wanted to see what you guys could come up with for this one. We'll end the week of with a lil bit of word play with Last night I.......

Feel free to finish the sentence with what you really did OR what you wanted to do OR what you wish you could do...

Maybe you'll get inspired to go home & do it.. ;-)

Last night I.........


Thursday, August 18, 2011

Random Fact Thursdays...

Last night I was busy being a mommy so I didn't get to blog but I came up with the idea this morning to share Random Facts about sex. This blog after all is a forum for learning & sharing so why not share your knowledge with the group. Plus I learn things I might have not known and I get to use it for my parties.

So with that I will start....

Random Fact: Up until 1884, a woman could be sent to prison for denying her husband sex?????


Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Get A Room....

You and (insert name are sitting on the sofa in the living room, having a glass of wine,candles lit all over, listening to some jazz playing after having a nice romantic dinner. You guys are feeling each other, you start looking at each other & start kissing. Softly at first & then more passionately...


Woman is cooking dinner in the kitchen..wearing white wife beater & a pair of fitted boy shorts. Man or women (I don't judge..LOL) walks by the kitchen & watches as woman does her thing knowing that her meal will be the shit. She takes a break to sip on a glass of wine while she looks at the stove proud of the meal she's preparing..Man/woman gets aroused looking this sight and wants to take her right then & there...

Now in both of these situations you are in a room that isn't your bedroom. In my opinion I say get it where you want to. I'm not going to stop my husband to tell him let's go to our bedroom. As hard as we work to pay rent & bills we gonna do it wherever we want... And I'm attracted to my husband in a way where the mood sometimes may strike us at any time and we don't wanna wait til we get to our bedroom. Like Fury stated in his blog a few weeks ago sometimes it take something simple like doing it in another room to add a little spice in your relationship..

So my question is this to the blog family.. Do you think sex should be limited to the bedroom or should you just take it where you want it???

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Bert & Ernie may be Gay.....

Last week it came out that a group is trying to push for Bert & Ernie from Sesame Street to have a gay marriage. People were outraged...My coworkers were upset NOT because there would potentially be gay muppets on Sesame Street BUT because it was Bert & Ernie. They stated it was too traumatizing to imagine the muppets that had just been friends & roommates since 1969 were now homosexual and having sex with each other. Someone even suggested that they come up with 2 new muppets that could just join Sesame Street & be gay from the beginning.
Personally the whole thing is a big deal for nothing in my opinion. I think a few of us always thought Bert & Ernie were gay AND I think this helps young children with gay parents identify more with their parents & the relationship they may have with each other. I mean we all know that if anyone will do it properly it will be Sesame Street.
So what do you guys think? Do you care if they are gay?? How accepting are you of the gay culture? How would you feel if people you knew for over 30 years decided to get married under the new gay rights law? Would you support them??

Friday, August 12, 2011

Single People Fuck too...

When I first started writing my blog I wrote from my point of view until someone pointed out that I was excluding a whole group of people... Single people. I kept writing about what you would do with & for your mate but I was excluding the people that may not be in a commited relationship...And guess what??? I had to be reminded that Single People Fuck TOO... OMG.
And guess what they sometimes do it better than us people in relationships. Single people (for the most part) are more spontaneous, ready willing & able and do it more frequently. They are more open to experimentation and even more willing to explore their own bodies.

So here are a few questions for the blog family:

1. If you are single. Do you feel you have a healthy & fulfilling sex life?
2. If you are in a relationship, are their any aspects of your "single sex life" that you'd like to incorporate into your commited sex life?

Thursday, August 11, 2011

Sex Toys 101....Lesson 1-The Bullet

Hi.. I'm Annamaria & I sell sex toys.. :-)
Now that we've gotten that out the way let's begin with today's blog. I think that every woman should own sex toys when they are single and should definitely explore them when they are in a relationship. How can you expect a man to be able to please you if you don't know how to please yourself? How can you tell your mate what you like or how you want it if you don't explore yourself first?

With that being said we will use this blog to explore sex toys. For all of you that don't know anything about sex toys read, learn and ask questions. For those of you that have toys please feel free to add your input.

We will be begin with THE BULLET...
This is the basic of all the sex toys. It can be used alone or with different sleeves for added uses & sensations. This should be your first sex toy purchase but I warn you that you will advance from it fairly quickly. Be warned you never forget your first love so you will never forget your bullet. Doesn't matter if you have a truckload of sex toys you will never get rid of him...

Here are the different bullets available:

Maxi Bullet Massager:
Powerful, water resistant and wireless bullets are controlled by unique switch on the end of bullet. Bullet is single speed with high frequency vibrations.


Bullet Massager:
Discover low effort, high impact orgasms. This versatile and powerful pleaser should be a staple in every woman's toy box. Features a daisy wheel for easy control.
Double Bullet Massager:
Two Bullets equals twice the fun. Unleash your imagination and use your creativity for double the pleasure. Two bullets and one control set.
Pulsing Orbiter Massager
If you crave adventure and you like intensity--then this bullet was made for you. With five tempos ranging from a slow pulsing to a rolling pleasure of vibrations, this versatile toy sends women off into a world of intense pleasure and ultimate satisfaction.
Mini Bullet Massager:
Powerful, water resistant and wireless bullets are controlled by a unique switch on the end of bullet. Bullet is single speed with high frequency vibrations.

Here are some ways to make your bullets more fun:

Pleasure safari
Super-stretchy, velvet touch silicone pleasure sleeves are perfect for your soft, sensuous playtime. Designed to fit any vibrating bullet, your playful pet has enhanced texture for added pleasure.
Blossom Bliss
These petals are designed to please. Hands-free vibrator with removable bullet and multi-speed dial. Water resistant.
Bunny Bullet
Hop for joy. Water resistant bullet with seven vibrating functions and a removable bunny sleeve clitoral tickler.
Rockin Rabbit
Rock 'n Roll. Two favorite toys in one combining soft, reverberating bunny ears and an intensely powerful vibrating bullet. Five speeds
All of these can be found in the bullets & more section of my website:
Enter Coupon Code: BULLET and receive 10% off any bullet purchase from now thru August 31st.

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Happy Humpdays

Today's humpday topic is scent..... What scents are you attracted to? What scents put you in the mood?

For me I like clean scents. Irish spring (cuz it wakes up my senses & smells like my hubby) Certain colognes, clean sheets, scented candles...

What are the scents that entice you?

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

I would leave my mate if......

For those of us in relationships OR single people there are always deal breakers. Things your significant other can do that would make you leave them. The other day I was listening to the radio & they were talking to people who left their mates because they had gained weight. This seemed a lil shallow to me but hey to each their own right?? Now this blog will be dedicated to the shallow part.. We've all heard about the cheating and beating.. BUT what if your mate gained weight? Or lost weight? or got nose job.. Or did something to alter their physcial appearance.. What would your dealbreaker be???

What would make you say I would leave my mate if.........

Friday, August 5, 2011

Happy Birthday Sophia

Before I am anything else I am a mother. Today I am taking the day off from everything to spend the day with my baby girl! Happy Birthday 2nd Birthday Sophia. I love you very much & may you have many many many more.

Special shout out to Mr. Liam who turned 2 yesterday because your mommy was in a rush & decided to beat me in the delivery room! : ) I won't hold it against you. Love u too.

Thursday, August 4, 2011

Bedroom Personality...

 Submissive & Dominate....

Now we all have our personalities and they play out in our every day life.. But our roles can sometimes be reversed when we're in the bedroom. I for one have a very dominate personality. A lot of times though when I get home I play the submissive wife. When I feel like being fancy I play on my normal dominate personality & take charge. I can go back & forth between giving my husband what he wants or telling him what I want. Changing it up from time to time can add spice or keep things interesting.

So blog familia. What is your bedroom personality? Do you like to change your bedroom personality? What personality to do you like your mate to take on.

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

69 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life

Shout out to B & Fury for allowing me to share! :-)

69 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex The Fury.When you woke up and rolled over this morning, did you see some "regular old crackers"? Are you three days, three months, three years, seven years or more in a relationship and thinking things have to get better because this gumbo has lost its spice?

Need some help spicing up your relationship?

Never fear. The Fury is here.

1) You first have to decide if your partner really wants to spice things up. If not, it won't matter. This kitchen needs two cooks. If both people aren't focused on the dish, it won't be successful.

2) Honest communication. It's time to share those deep, dark, filthy fetishes without judgement and then decide what you both feel comfortable doing.

3) Explore, push the envelope and go at it with reckless abandon!

A friend of mine decided she was ready to explore her freaky side with her new mate. One morning when he walked back into the bedroom after his morning shower, she was playing with her toy, well lubed and told him to give it to her...anally.

He was shocked, thrown off balance...and intrigued.

Another friend webcammed from work with her husband and proceeded to pleasure herself right then and there. She stopped before climax and instructed him that it was his job to finish it when they got home.

They never put their kids to bed faster.

Pushing the envelope works. Here's 69 ways you can do it:

1. Go to the sex club and watch...hell...participate!
2. Go to the strip club together
3. Strip for your man/woman at home
4. Give each other lap dances with a happy ending
5. Role play as soon as they walk in the door
6. Wear a sexy costume
7. Do that freaky thing you always fantasized about but were scared you'd be judged
8. Watch porn together
9. Give her/him some unprovoked, out of the blue, surprise head in the kitchen
10. Swallow for the first time...and enjoy it [or do a great job of acting as if you do]
11. Be gentle with her
12. Tease her
13. Give her/him a massage with a happy ending
14. Have sex in public
15. "Christen" every room in your place (both places if you live separately)
16. Dress. No panties. Let him see you/touch you in public
17. Try new positions. There are LOTS of them.
18. Have a threesome
19. Have a foursome
20. Have a fivesome (...get the picture?)
21. Have sex with all the lights on
22. Have sex with only candles lit
23. Have sex in pitch blackness with only your voices and bodies to tell the tale
24. Have anal sex
25. Titty f#ck
26. Ask for the facial if you really want it
27. Ask her if you can give her a facial if you really wanna try it
28. Record it, watch it together, have more sex, erase it...(ERASE IT!)
29. Record something for him/her
30. Do it with the music blasting
31. Send him sexy pictures while he's out with his boys
32. Send her a sexy picture while she's out with the girls (Don't show anyone those pictures)
33. Go to the spa together
34. Write a sexy story for each other and read them aloud
35. Exercise together
36. Cook for him/her wearing something sexy..or just an apron
37. Talk dirty during sex
38. Tell him/her how you want it...during
39. Spank her
40. Spank him
41. Whip him
42. Whip her
43. Tie her/him up
44. Blindfold her/him
45. Bring out the toys
46. Use her toy on her
47. Use his on toy him
48. Use her toy on him (no judging)
49. Let him watch you pleasure yourself
50. Let her watch you pleasure yourself
51. Mutual masturbation
52. Give him head during Sportscenter
53. Give her head during Basketball Wives
54. Sext
55. Read The Dirty Details together (shameless plug)
56. Have tipsy sex (wine is a wonderful de-inhibitor)
57. Rent a hotel and leave it a wreck from the wild sex you had
58. Have sex in a hard back chair
59. Have sex on a counter top
60. Have sex on a table (please don't break the table)
61. Give him head while driving (stay in the left lane, proceed with caution)
62. Digitally stimulate her while driving (see note above)
63. Flirt with another woman in front of him
64. Whip cream, honey, chocolate syrup, peanut butter...(that was not a recipe)
65. Baby oil, plastic sheets...(that was not a child care tip)
66. Use a toy on her while you're having sex
67. Lick her from the back
68. Lick him from the back
69. 69

They call me The Fury and I suggest you print out this list and leave it on his/her pillow with your favorites circled.

- The Fury

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Tuesday, August 2, 2011

If you don't do it someone else will......

This blog has sparked a number of conversations between my friends/family and myself and a few times people have asked me for advice. By no means am I a relationship expert. I can only tell you what I think I would do in certain situations or using the blog I can post it & let you guys give your opinions. Well I had a very interesting conversation with a friend the other day about lack of sex/intimacy in their marriage. Now before I start let me just say that I know both wife & husband and am cool with both so I am not taking sides...
In a nutshell the wife feels that her husband is always nagging her for sex. She feels that it's all he ever talks about & wants. The husband states that he loves & naturally desires his wife. He says he feels rejected when she denies him and feels inadequate or like he is doing something wrong.

Now as the title states my first instinct is to tell the wife now if you don't bone your husband someone else will so get on it..TWSS But that isn't going to help anyone & it's just mean.
First off I think something is going on with the wife to make her not have any sexual desire. From what I know of her she has ZERO sex life & never wants to do it. She claims she's always tired from work, the household chores and dealing with their daughter. This is understandable but even on days when there is nothing to be done & grandma is babysitting there is still no desire on her part. She claims that she loves her husband and is totally attracted to him but she doesn't feel the need to be intimate with her husband.
The husband loves his wife. He is completely attracted to her and all he wants is to have sex on a consistent basis. He's not asking for it everyday but it's come to a point where he can't even get it on major holidays. He doesn't want to end his marriage and and doesn't want to cheat on his wife but he is at the point where he's given up on ever being intimate with his wife. And again while sex isn't everything it is a very important part of a relationship. I think that if I wasn't able to connect with my husband on that level we'd have issues. But again I can't help but think there is something deeper. A deeper issue that is the root for a lot of the feelings both of these people have. And I think it needs to be explored.

What say you blog family? What do you think you would do in this situation? How would you handle it? Do you think it's normal?

Monday, August 1, 2011

One Word Mondays...

A lot of my friends that have Blogs have decided to do something called Wordless Wednesdays. This is when they post a picture & don't say anything & just let people comment on the picture. I'm going to do something similar. One Word Mondays. Every Monday I will post ONE WORD. You can choose to comment on what it means to you, what you think of when you see it, how it makes you feel, etc etc... So without further adieu.. The word for today is....


Friday, July 29, 2011

The Sex Club...

A while back on a friends blog Brooke's Blog Cafe ( we had a brief blog conversation about going to sex clubs. These are basically clubs where you go with your mate or alone (whatever floats your boat) to engage in sex acts with different people, or to watch people having sex, or to have sex with your partner while other people have the opportunity to watch. Now as taboo as this topic may seem there are quite a few people that we all know that have either gone to these clubs or would go.

Question of the day is would you go to a sex club? Would you take your mate or go alone? How far do you think you would take it?

Thursday, July 28, 2011

Product Review

As we all know the original point of the blog is to highlight my passion party business Once every few days/weeks I will highlight a product on my line, describe it and in certain instances offer a limited time discount. If anyone has any questions about anything highlighted please feel free to contact me for more info via my website. Today's product highlight is: Silky Sheet Pomegranate
This product usually comes in 4 different scents botanical breeze, pear, orange mango & plumeria but for the summer it comes in pomegranate. Silky sheets has dual uses. It can be used to spray on the sheets & around the room to create a sexy ambiance. It also can be used after intimacy to dry up those annoying wet spots. Normally sells for $15 but for the next 24 hours it will sell for only $10. Use coupon code BLOG1 during checkout.

Also for any parties booked in Sept & October your party will get the added pleasure of having scrumptious cupcakes provided for you by my wonderful cupcake contact.  This is in addition to any hostess incentives being offered at that time.

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Happy Humpday

I've decided to play on humpday & make the theme of every Wednesday happy humpday. On Wednesdays we'll have a conversation where we discuss things that will make us wanna
Whether Im advertising a  product or talking about what attracks us to our mate, what puts us in the mood, etc
So with this let's begin with our first Humpday topic....Strip clubs.......
I have no problem with strip clubs. That's the one place I can go that I don't have to worry about looking a certain way or anyone hitting on me cuz no one is looking at (just kidding) I would and have taken my significant other and to be perfectly honest there were never the feelings of jealousy or inadequacy that I've heard other women talk about. Heck I handed out business cards the last time we went. I can honestly say I've never had a bad time at a strip club. It's just another place we can go to when we want a fun/different and not soo romantic date night. And with that I'll open the floor to you guys & gals...

What do you think about them? Have you/would you go to one with your mate? Would it/has it made you jealous? Would you get mad at your mate for going to one?

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

You get out what you put in...

As you all know I recently got married. I am very happy in my relationship and have been so for quite some time. But as I was discussing with some friends on Friday evening relationships are hard work. Marriage is probably the hardest job I've ever accepted. Throw kids into it and it makes it that much more difficult. As a wife there is a constant struggle to get everything done at home, with the kids, at work & then focus on your husband. As much as most of us don't want to admit it once in a while something gets neglected. And as much as we really hate to admit it most of the time its our husbands. I made a secret promise to myself on my wedding day as I got dressed to invest in my marriage & not neglect my husband. I figured that if I put in the work I'd get that much more out of it. As I was discussing with my friends its not soo much about having problems but you want your mate to want you & desire you just as much as you want & desire them. Sometimes the simplest of gestures can accomplish that. One thing my husband & I try to do at LEAST once a month is date night. We get a babysitter, get dressed up & go out. We do dinner, movies, a bar, a club, we've even gone to a cigar bar to have a cigar & a glass of wine. We try to make things different each time. During all the other times or when we can't find a babysitter we put the baby to sleep & have date night in the living room. Break open a bottle of wine. Turn off all the lights & cuddle on the couch watching a movie.
Now in my discussion on Friday we touched on two suggestions that I hadn't put a lot of thought into but are now sounding really good to me. Counseling & retreats. One wife talked about how her & husband were going to start going to a marriage counselor that a friend recommended. I wondered if she was having problems in her marriage. Almost instantly she said no we're going to prevent problems. We're going to learn more about each other and how to develop our relationship deeper... (SOMEONE SIGN ME and another one spoke about a marriage retreat. This is one weekend a year that her & her husband go away on a marital retreat to get in touch with each other & reconnect. AGAIN a great idea..
So now blog family since my quick conversation sparked a few great ideas on how to invest in a long happy marriage what ideas do you have to keep things interesting? What work do you and your mate put in? Is there anything that you have wanted to try that you haven't? 

Monday, July 25, 2011

One Word Mondays...

A lot of my friends that have Blogs have decided to do something called Wordless Wednesdays. This is when they post a picture & don't say anything & just let people comment on the picture. I'm going to do something similar. One Word Mondays. Every Monday I will post ONE WORD. You can choose to comment on what it means to you, what you think of when you see it, how it makes you feel, etc etc... So without further adieu.. The word for today is....


Friday, July 22, 2011

Don't tell them we.....

I love my friends & family. Everyone that knows me knows that. I talk to my peeps about everything & we have no filters. Now I would assume that when people hear that I am a passion party consultant they would be under the impression that I am a normal married adult with a healthy level of intimacy with my hubby that allows me to do my job to the best of my abilities. It never occurred to me that people didn't think that until my husband brought up the conversation yesterday.. I had to laugh. Although I understand that different people are into different things & some of us are more open minded than others I would think that we would all be comfortable enough for certain discussions not to bother us or make us feel funny. Or maybe my friends & family are just the exception to the rule.

What do you think? Are you & your mate open with each other? Are you and your friends/family open to discussions about anything? Do you filter what you talk about with certain people?

Thursday, July 21, 2011

I wish my mate would........

One of the questions I hear a LOT when I tell people I'm a passion party consultant is "is your hubby OK with that"? I also get asked if my husband is into stuff like "that" because most people think there mates aren't. Most people that think their significant other isn't into sex toys probably never had a conversation them about it. Some people have & their mates were uninterested.

Truth be told my husband was not into toys or anything passion party related when we first got together. But as things progressed between us and we talked openly about it he became more comfortable with it all and now looks forward to new products coming out so we can try them. I've heard men say my girl/wife doesn't need a toy because she has me. What people don't understand is that the toy isn't here to replace you. It's here just to add a lil something on a day you feel like being fancy and doing something different. A toy can also help you discover things you & your mate like that you never knew about and it may help your mate open up about things they want to do, try or like.

No one is perfect & relationships are give & take. Sometimes we wish our significant other would do things the way we want them to. Sometimes we think certain things should be automatic but communication is key. And sometimes we may get the wrong impression about why our mate wants us to do certain things. I posed this question to a few people and here were some of my responses...

1. I wish my mate would fold laundry, pick her shoes up & make the bed...
This is what MY husband would say... I will do laundry but I hate folding it & putting it away. And after working all day, running after the baby, cooking, etc the last thing I wanna do is fold clothes. Second I'm a shoe whore. LOVE THEM. If I was a millionaire I would buy shoes all day every day. I wear a different pair of shoes almost every day. I take off my shoes the minute I walk into my house therefore by Friday there are at LEAST 5 pairs of shoes by the door. It annoys him to no end. Lastly I hate making the bed. You're just gonna mess it up when you get back in it later.. and it feels so nice & comfy when i just jump into my unmade bed. I married someone who can NOT go to bed unless the bed is made & has actually discovered how to make the bed with me in it!

2. I wish my mate were more supportive..
One person I asked wished that their mate would give them the support they give. Something simple like just giving your mate your full attention when they speak or acknowledging their feelings is sometimes all your mate needs to know that you care.

3. I wish my mate wanted sex more...
Before everyone rolls their eyes in disgust the person that mentioned this didn't say it in a perverted I need sex all the time sort of way. It was said more in a need to have that intimacy from my mate way. It was mentioned that because their mate didn't initiate sex or rejected them when sex was brought up they in turn felt rejected, possibly inadequate and a loss of intimacy.

So my question to all is what do u wish your mate would do or try????

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

About Me...

I have to admit it.. I'm addicted to blogs. I love reading them, critiquing them and responding to them. I even love harassing my friends as to when they are going to post new blogs. (Sorry Brooke) So rather than be that person that doesn't practice what she preaches, I decided to join the blog community.

Now for those of you that don't know I am a newly married, mother. I am also a part time passion party consultant ( when I am not out saving the world being a foreclosure prevention counselor... This is my life. The constant volley between the two people that make up ME.. By day I am the counselor & the mama. By night I am the passion party consultant & the wife.... I believe that regardless of kids, work, etc you should never stop being sexy. After all you have to keep your mate interested & happy. So this blog will be utilized to discuss different topics about life, love, sex, kids, marriage, etc etc whatever you guys want to hear. It's dedicated to all of you sexy married mamas, papas, singles, etc etc...

A few topics I intend to discuss are:
How to make it happen when you have kids: Quickies around the kiddies..
Top toys that won't freak out your mate
New ideas for adding spice

If you guys have anything on your mind or any topic that you want to discuss let me know or volunteer to guest blog...